Observing other families throughout our marriage has taught us so much and we are grateful for the example and counsel of others. We want to share in YOUR triumph of victory and appreciate YOUR growth from trial and adversity. We hope you will enjoy learning from other family’s experiences, too!
We are excited to introduce to you..
The Lesny Family
What has been your experience with Challenge My Family so far?
Well, we already regularly eat dinner as a family so you could say we did that one! Eating dinner together every night as a family is special to us. We make it a rule to have “no tech at the table” and try to be intentional about this time together, like asking Liv about her school day, or even silly questions like “if you could have one super power what would it be?” This really helps generate conversation. family dinner
We also dance our roof off our house.. it’s a pretty regular occurrence when you have a home full of girls 🙂 dance party
Livia loves watching the challenge your kids videos so she has been making her bed, cleaning her room and doing her chores like feeding Maverick and setting the table. make your bed by challenge my kids
We LOVED the idea of having a family motto and crest.
So we sat down one afternoon and talked about what was the most important attribute in our family. We talked about Daniel from the Bible and how he was always at peace because he was honest and always did the right thing. “Peace through Integrity” was born as our motto.
Livia then began to draw our crest! We have so much fun doing the challenges!
Tell us about your family:
We are the Lesny family! Shawn, Kimber, Livia (5), Weslie (21m). We are currently a 4 strong military family. This does not count our crazy animals Maverick, Ebony and Bolt. We will be adding a 5th over the next year and a half as we are adopting from Ethiopia! Our family loves the outdoors rain or shine but if we are inside we are drawing, coloring, snuggling up together to watch movies or wrestling.
What has been one of your family’s biggest trials?
We are firm believers that trials big and small shape and define you.
Our biggest trial as a family would have to be deployments. In 2013/14 Shawn deployed to Afghanistan for 9 months and then 90 days after returning was deployed again to Iraq.
From Shawn’s perspective: The deployments to me were great from the perspective of a Soldier. However, the problem is that I am not just a Soldier. I am a Husband, father, brother and friend. Being these things when you are halfway across the world is extremely difficult. Late night skype / FaceTime sessions just were not cutting it. I wanted to be there for my wife and daughter (1 year old at the time).
It really is true when they say it is harder on the family at home than for the Soldier. I had the mission and my brothers in arms to keep my mind occupied. Meanwhile, back home Kimber struggled being a momentarily single parent.
Growing up, my father was absent in my life due to being incarcerated. So, naturally, I have that wound in me, but as I stated before it had shaped and defined me. I want nothing more in this world to be a good Father, husband and hero to my beauties.
From Kimber’s perspective:
The deployments were tough, but I do believe without pain and suffering there is no room for growth. I was surrounded by a great community and followers of Christ plus the added benefit of having family only 2 hours away.
Liv and I grew strong together, but after seeing her grow into this little girl full of joy, love, and a lot of sass, I was really sad thinking that Shawn could potentially miss out on this baby girl’s life! So, after a lot of conversation and prayer, we will be stepping away from the full time military career and stepping into a new job! We are very excited.
What has been one of your biggest victories?
I could sit here and name all kinds of victories (depending on you criteria for labeling a victory) from setting argument ground rules for our marriage, starting the adoption process, or being the first and only of my blood to graduate high school–let alone go to college and become an Army Officer. I think though, the greatest victory we have in our family is rooting our family deeply in faith. All of the rest pale in comparison.
If you could offer one piece of advice to help fortify families, what would it be?
As a Father, set and be the example. Love your wife, and ensure your children see it. Make a commitment to the never ending pursuit of how to be a better Father, husband and friend.
As a mother …
Be kind to yourself. Being a mommy is tough and sometimes you feel pulled in all sorts of different directions. On a daily basis, giving my spouse, kids, and myself GRACE is huge. Practicing GRATITUDE is a very big part of our daily routine. Always remembering that we have more than enough and to be content.